“From Obligation to Gratitude: The Power of ‘I Get To’”

The Power of Shifting “I Have To” into “I Get To”

Language shapes our reality more than we realize. The words we use every day influence how we feel, how we act, and ultimately, how we experience life.

Take these common phrases:

“I have to wake up early.”

“I have to work out.”

“I have to go to work.”

“I have to cook dinner.”

At first glance, they seem harmless—just statements about daily responsibilities. But when we say “I have to”, we unintentionally frame these actions as burdens, obligations, or chores. Over time, this mindset can lead to resentment, burnout, and even a lack of appreciation for the life we’re living.

But what happens when we make a simple shift?

What if we replaced “I have to” with “I get to”?

“I get to wake up early.” → Because I have another day of life.

“I get to work out.” → Because my body is strong and capable.

“I get to go to work.” → Because I have opportunities and income.

“I get to cook dinner.” → Because I have food to nourish myself and my family.

This shift isn’t just about positivity—it’s about rewiring your brain to recognize the privileges in your everyday routine.

Why This Works

1. Gratitude Rewires the Brain

Studies show that practicing gratitude increases dopamine and serotonin levels, which enhance mood and reduce stress. By changing our language, we naturally cultivate a gratitude-based mindset.

2. Perspective Creates Energy

When we see tasks as obligations, we feel drained before we even start. But when we see them as privileges, we approach them with more enthusiasm and purpose.

3. Words Shape Our Identity

The way we talk about our lives influences how we feel about them. When we say “I get to”, we reinforce a sense of abundance rather than lack.

The Challenge

For the next 24 hours, catch yourself every time you say “I have to”. Pause, reframe, and say “I get to” instead. Notice how it shifts your energy.